Longevity has become an important measure of well-being in today’s society. Nowhere is this measure being exceeded more than in the developed world. Humans are living longer than ever in history thanks to advances in modern medicine and extended periods of peace and prosperity.
This is a remarkable marker of human achievement and progress, but it mainly appears good on a chart or graph. If you have ever taken care of an elderly parent, you know that the truth of aging is not pretty. Unless you have been fortunate enough to win both the genetic and state lotteries, the physical and financial stresses that inevitably accompany old age can be daunting. Growing old is unavoidable for everyone, and for most people, it will be unpleasant. However, it does not have to be.
Besides all the advances being made by scientists, a lot will also depend on how you as an individual prepare for old age. Now, while you are in your 40s and 50s. Start by chipping away at calcified habits and personality traits that will not serve you well in your 70s, 80s and 90s. Bad habits take decades to form and will take at least half as long to erode. Here are *six principles to aspire to in order to enjoy a reasonably happy old age.
If you don’t want to end up a despondent curmudgeon, here are six qualities* one can aspire to to make the best of old age.
- More Conscientiousness Have structure and some discipline about your day. A daily walk and newspaper, weekly breakfast with friends, monthly haircut. Do things around the house – fixing, mending, tending. Be independent to the extent you can.
- More Agreeableness Don’t be prickly. Be pleasant and jovial – with friends, family, and strangers.
- More Extroversion Get out more. Share your stories. Be open to conversations with strangers.
- Less Neuroticism (negativity) Cut out the negative, doom and gloom talk.
- More Openness to New Experiences Try new foods, and activities. Go to new places. Learn something new. Don’t get stuck in your rut.
- Live in the moment. Don’t dwell on the past. The past and its rich memories are pleasurable to recall – occasionally. But living there does you no good. Avoid saying things like “it was a lot better back in my day”. It wasn’t. Be present and look towards the newness tomorrow might bring.
* Adapted from the Maturity Principle espoused by research psychologist Christopher J. Soto
ZIA KHAN 